Walking the path to my own happiness

[mamabird]

Interesting development today.

H and I got into another dust up today, starting with finances and ending with the usual. Although, he didn't accuse me of anything in this argument. It was more about him moving out and me saying it made no sense for him to move into our old house since that mortgage is covered, + 25% additional. I actually said it was stupid. It is stupid.

H said that I had no sympathy for him in his situation. That he built our house from scratch and leaving is hard. I did say I felt bad for him. I do feel bad for him, but not that bad - he has made these choices not to work on the R, and if he has to go live in an apartment now, well, that's his choice ultimately. The WAS leaves, not the other way around.

I told him I was fed up with the way he was treating me. H started to say, "You think you have it bad, you should hear this story about so and so..." and I just stopped him. I said I didn't care about anyone else's sitch - I know that I don't want to be treated this way. Period. (backbone!)

I told him I was still willing to try, so that he wouldn't have to move out.

Then I left to take the kids ice skating and he went for a bike ride and when he came back he said I could call another MC if I wanted to, with the goal of "understanding each other better." He said he still wanted to move out but it sounds like he's dropped the idea of moving back into our old house.

I guess you could call this progress... but so ironic how I don't really care that much anymore... I noticed today that he's the one kind of coming to me at the moment...