For some reason, I was struggling through NY Eve last night - I found it worse than Xmas. It was just me and S14 at home and we were going through the motions.
It really helped to come on here this morning and read your replies.
7720, I have tried to be as positive as i can about stbx around the kids. They struggle with my 'acting as if' and positive attitude to him. They ask why i just don't take him to court. They don't like their new restricted lifestyle and they want their money returned that he took from their bank accounts. They also hate the fact of OW. S14 in particular keeps asking me to 'get someone new' who will be a proper father/husband.
As in your sitch, my H believes that i have turned the kids against him. Not a thought that his own behaviour might have had an impact.
Bklyn, I'm with you: "Until they are ready to grow up, who wants these jerks?"
I think this is why I've started to feel really sad for him lately. I can't ever have him back like this - and he doesn't seem close to any change. What a wasted life, and how terribly sad that he has lost his family.
Tori, I will keep smiling. I just think to myself 'Happy as a clam'. That alone makes me grin!
Happy New Year every one. So grateful that i have this place to come to and all of your support.
