I want to wish everyone a happy New Year!!! I hope it is better than the year we just had lol. Much love to my fellow crisis managers.
I spoke with my BIL today and he said the same thing that I have heard before. My W told him that she is unhappy and does not know why or even if she is unhappy with me. Makes my head spin whenever I hear this. With that being said I think for now D is off the table for now. The big D word has not come up in a couple of weeks and i certainly will not mention it lol. I'm going to BIL's house to drink a few (I will only drink a few). Everyone in the family has been saying pretty much the same thing to her, slow down and make sure this is what you really want. It's nice to know they are not pressuring her either way. I talked with most of them and asked them to not pressure her right after BD. I have to focus on me and let her figure out that I am not the reason she is unhappy. Then we may be able to talk, however I need to get more emotionally detached so that I can react better to things she says.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
Makes my head spin whenever I hear this. With that being said I think for now D is off the table for now. The big D word has not come up in a couple of weeks and i certainly will not mention it lol. I'm going to BIL's house to drink a few (I will only drink a few). Everyone in the family has been saying pretty much the same thing to her, slow down and make sure this is what you really want. It's nice to know they are not pressuring her either way. I talked with most of them and asked them to not pressure her right after BD. I have to focus on me and let her figure out that I am not the reason she is unhappy. Then we may be able to talk, however I need to get more emotionally detached so that I can react better to things she says.