Have you listen, really listen, to anything we've said? You're told "don't pursue her", yet you keep pouring it on.....as if you were told to do the opposite. I would think you would eventually start to realize you shouldn't keep doing it. But you just put it down as nothing is working. Have you don't anything that could be considered a 180 degree for you? If so, what?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
