I'm not surprised that something happened to her as a child because all of the MLCers have a past that comes back to haunt them sometime in their lives, i.e., especially at midlife. There is no need to go into her history here, but at least you are aware of it.

She's going to have to face that issue at some point and hopefully get to the point that she can discuss it w/her parents. Until she does, she'll continue to live in denial.

So, she got a little defensive about the charges...not surprised because she felt like you were most likely pointing the finger at her about it or she may have thought you were questioning the purchases. Glad to see you explained the reason for the text message.

Oh, she might have thought about calling the heating people, but she didn't want to fork out "her" money at Christmas for the repair...typical behavior and let "the adult authority figure" take care of it.

I'm so sorry the house wasn't the way you left it...typical teenager behavior.

I do hope the new year is better for you.

Please try to have a Happy New Year.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.