Hey DM, I agree with Snodderly. Your H sounds like classic MLC and moving your thread over there should help with responses.
My MLCer H sounds very much like yours except for the fact that he did leave and lives with the ow. It seems to be a common theme for them to want to escape all responsibility and believe that if we (LBS and kids)weren't in the picture then their lives would be perfect.
I get that you are done, but when I see you questioning yourself, then I think that maybe you're not quite done yet. Just make sure that your decisions sit right in your heart and soul and are not made trying to teach your H a lesson. I am also struggling with this right now as I'm headed into my 4th year with H gone.
