Dawn, You may want to consider moving your thread over to the MLC Forum. You've been at this for quite some time and you will get more responses and support for MLC issues over there and you can link your threads in your new one.
As for the cell phone, he will continue to carry it around for a long time. It's all part of being a teenager all over again. Your h has a ways to go and yes, it gets frustrating dealing w/their emotional issues and distance all of the time. They've basically checked out of the relationship long before you get the BD. Having an MLCer living at home is difficult and the walking on eggshells affects everyone.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
