Sam, She may have some "serious" childhood issues that only she knows about. Maybe she's still trying to figure out who she is and what she wants out of life. We don't know actually how her childhood was...these could be very serious issues that she needs to deal w/and only a professional could help her, if she were to seek one out. What I'm thinking is that she wasn't validated and no one may have understood her sexual orientation as she was growing up...unfortuantely, unless she's discussed some of her thoughts about her childhood, we will not know where those issues may lie in her heart and soul.
As for the charges, definitely contact her about them as soon as possible. Do not be surprised if she becomes defensive, as mlcers are paranoid and do not like to have their errors pointed out to them.
I think it is wise to discuss the furnace repairs w/her and go from there. Keep your expectations at zero because she's looking at everything in a different light these days.
Speak calmly and do not allow your emotions to take over. State your points in short and sweet manner as they can't concentrate on too much information at one time.
Good luck!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
