So, is this me protecting myself? Am I being to harsh, or is the stage I need to be at to accept that all the above is probably true?
I don't know, Dawn. I tend to vacillate between feeling that there is no hope for my H ever to return to being a decent person, and the feeling that he is lost and needs my compassionate understanding for succumbing to things he has no control over.
I think sometimes too we might look for others who we tell about our sitch to judge our spouses - to tell us how wrong they are in treating us this way, what a lowdown dirty rat they are (at least this is true for me!) rather than, say, offering a prayer of hope.
I really don't know.
But please do know that we are here for you - I'm finding it difficult to offer much in the way of helpful advice to anyone lately, I'm just a bit too exhausted by developments in my sitch to do anything other than read here. But I do read and try to keep up with everyone's threads.
