But see KD, you're doing the same thing, focusing on your WAS in the D. I wasn't asking why the LBS doesn't see the D as the solution for the WAS. I was wondering why the LBS doesn't see the D as a solution for the LBS. M is work. It takes sacrifice. If the LBS wasn't willing to do for the M what the WAS wanted, they were probably living with someone that was nagging and unhappy most of the time anyway. I would think a D would be a "gift" to the LBS. Then they would be able to continue as they were and not have to change anything about themself. My H could continue all of his chosen habits without having to hear about it from me anymore, and could avoid the effort of changing his lifestyle which seems to be so difficult for him. This is his second M. It's not like he doesn't know the gig. If D was all that bad the first time, you'd think he'd take it more seriously the second time around. Perhaps that contributes largely to my rationale that it's not such a big deal for the LBS.
