"Nothing" I get. I just up in arms because of the house. She does not seem to care. Then went I tell her I am going to do something she does respond or tells me that the stuff beyonds to both of us and I need her permission, yet she does not respond to anything. Time is getting short on the closing
Sad today... ask her if she would like to go to diner tonight she is unavailable. Just saw a really nicw place I could live does not allow dogs and I am hesitatant. Because of the dog we habe together..
Have you listen, really listen, to anything we've said? You're told "don't pursue her", yet you keep pouring it on.....as if you were told to do the opposite. I would think you would eventually start to realize you shouldn't keep doing it. But you just put it down as nothing is working. Have you don't anything that could be considered a 180 degree for you? If so, what?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Edward, I know things are tuff man. Let me tell ya, I know. My wife of 11 years (T11 M7) cheated, separated, asked for Divorce, We moved, her to her bro's me to my friends. I have no work (complicated story, also a felon so hard to find) and we have a 3yo daughter. I'm devastated.
I got the DR book. I came here and another forum (This is a better forum imo but it takes so long to get approved for posting)
I promise you, you NEED TO TAKE THESE PEOPLE'S ADVICE! They are here to help you and will not steer you wrong. I know it's hard, I know it's tuff, but you need to do everything they said. You and your situation isn't all that different.
No, I didn't read all of the posts, I read the beg, last and middle. But I can tell you are struggling. PLease, take a breather, stop persuing, think about persuing behavior and what you could have done the LAST encounter that may have been wrong, and try not to do it again.
Good luck. I hope you both find your way back together again.
Dewayne
M: 36/W: 28 T 11yrs / M 7yrs /1x 3yo D Sept: W Cheated w/ teen, BDrop. W Beast. Hated me. Oct: 18 (M license)W Asked for D Oct: 31 (Anniverary)W Paid Lawyer Nov1st: Both moved.
Well I do try not to pursue. But everytime I try to cut loose there is something about the house. We have a house full of things that needs to be empty in a week. I am not the kind of person to throw her things away. I tried to sell things a she would let me. Though go her to agree on furniture, she got worried that I would sell a $50 rug along with it. Everytime I try to more forward she seems to clinge to something stupid. Today I told her we need to have the house emptied by the 11. And now she wants to know when I am available to speak. Stay tuned. I am still waiting for my e-divorce she said she was going to do that a month ago.
Now she said that I am obnoxious because I wanted to talked to her about what she would like to from the house.I am trying of her playing these stupid games she the house selling I trying numerous times to talked to her about. Now the date is happening iam a bad guy. I told her that I was not obnoxious and the her lack of response was obnoxious. I know that I am driving the wedge she like little deadline s Re the only think she response to. And I have a life too feel she needs to grow up and stop running away from her problems.
