Ruby, this is quite a change! I think it's great you had this conversation. I'll challenge you to think about a couple of things: -The journal. Sharing stuff about the past, esp if it's negative, might not be the best thing to do at this point. I know you needed to communicate this, but maybe it's best to focus on who you are NOW and your feelings NOW. -Intimacy. Yes, very important. The fact that this was one of the reasons he says he left is actually good, bc it means he might have little emotional attachment to the OW. In my case, my H started with an EA (we were intimate very often, so that wasn't the reason) and these A are a lot harder to overcome. -It's important he doesn't feel less about himself in your presence or in your friends' presence. Maybe you should ask your friends to respect him and your privacy. The friends think they're being supportive, but they're hurting the two of you instead.
