Sorry sandi, I'm just not very good at putting my thoughts into words, especially for the whole world to see, and especially to my wife, which is part of the reason we are where we are. As far as her moving back home,which is not for certain, I dont know what I'm going to do. I've been trying to think about how it would work but I am unsure where to start and I guess that was part of the reason for my one post. How do you give a spouse plenty of space when living under the same roof?