yes thank you for your advice and comments...They are very helpful...i was feeling like I was alone in the sea...my W thinks that this is not healthy for the children to not know what is going to happen and that she can tear off the band aide and let the wound heal faster so to speak...if she puts the nail in the coffin then they can mourn this and move on and be happy...d11 does spend a lot of time figuring out how to get us back together....C's are nice but very few of them are schooled in Dbing and tend to say o.k she is gone time to finalize everything so you can get on with life..very few of them or none that I have found would say follow the advice of people here. I pray for her return but sometimes I pray for me to move on and find someone else; I know that both are wrong but I am only human.
