Wife lost in the MLC-We are now separated

[sam4nh]

Back home. Got in late Friday night. W texted a couple of times Friday that my flight was delayed and that she fed the dogs. She actually tried to call me about my flight which I find unusual, but I was away from my phone and did see her call.

I left her gifts/card here when I left and she did thank me for them on Thursday before I came home. I said you're welcome. She said nothing more to me. She did not give me anything. Her parents were here for Christmas and they left me a couple of gifts that she left under the tree.

She left several things at the house from when she stayed here. I have a deep sense that she had the OW here while I was gone. Maybe I'm just paranoid, but it's the one of those feelings.

There are a few things I just don't understand.
Why when they do have a PA with the OP why there is such a need to keep it secret? If you want a divorce to be with the OP then get a divorce and let us all move on?

Why do the crazy people try and make the rest of us crazy, paranoid and insecure?

Why would her parents be so accepting of her leaving our marriage. Her sister pulled this a few years ago. Her sister married a great guy and six months later she went to a wedding (with him and her parents) and was found outside by her husband making out with a guy she had just met. She left her husband to move in with this guy who she eventually left since he abused her. Her parents kept supporting her decision, because as my W keeps telling me their family has unconditional love for one another. I should say that my W parents have been married for 48 years and fight all the time. They are not nice to each other and throw verbal daggers at each other all the time. I'm not sure that unconditional love means be mean to each other and then go to church and say a prayer???

I sometimes wonder if my W is really in a MLC or is she just playing this game to get me to leave? Why is she keeping so much distance between us and only wants to only text and respond on her terms. She seems to have a lot of the signs, but then sometimes I think she's has just bad behaviors and trying to mask them as a MLC.