Some progress after 2+ months of DBing

[labug]

Seems your mother might be an example of if you don't fix your own stuff, you end up in the same situation over and over again. My goal since the BD is to not be angry or bitter and to be able to be happy with myself. I'm slowly getting there but it will be an ongoing, lifelong project.

My H has a very different level of need for emotional connection than I. I often wonder if I had been more whole would it have made a difference?

I think so.