Cake-Eating..I just don't understand

[rosesarered]

Another update. My H came home tonight with a large canvas painting of Venice. Its beautiful and I love it. I have wanted a new picture for the living room for a long time. in the past week, he brought home 2 other gifts for me, a running jacket and new holiday greenery lights since my outside trees went out. All of these are really nice and make it so confusing. Why does he do this. I think his primary love language is giving gifts and acts of service. Meanwhile mine are physical touch and quality time. So for many years, we spoke different love languages and I had no clue. That book gave be great insight. Now I try to bring home little gifts every once and a while. I try not to over do it.

Anyway, he offered to take the boys over to his place to sleep one night again this weekend. I put my foot down as I think it will confuse them. I told him that I am fine for that to happen if we make it a regular schedule and tell them whats going on. He doesn't seem to want to do this. He said, "so you are going to put this all on me". I said "yes, because you know I don't want any of this. If there is no chance for us to reconcile then fine. Lets tell them." He said, "I didn't say that". (I smiled internally at that). He just said, "I don't know what to tell you, I am still angry at you". I responded, "thats fine". I didn't defend myself or say anything else.

ugh so frustrating..