I don't want to sound as if I'm pushing you into any decision, b/c you have to live with the ones you make. If it were me, my first concern would be to secure your rights as a father. As things stand, she may be able to leave the country with your D and nothing could be done.
You have to stop running at the mouth! You are your worst problem.
Do not say anything to anyone about this, or she could panic and take off.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
