The house is for sale. So sad, Family is breaking.

[FloydMan]

It is passive-aggressive behaviour at its finest. RLA. It says I have lots to give, but none for you. Over the top with dog and kids for sure.
I did what I thought was a dumb thing and contrary to 180ing and LRTing. I left a note by the coffee maker with a coffee poured for her to go and a small note: "have a safe and fun trip". It wasn't until later tonight I noticed the note was still there, but she had written "Thank You!" on it. and I noticed she did my laundry again. Now that is weird. wtf?
RE agent wants to lower the price of the house already. It has only been 4 weeks including the Holidays. I say too early. W has not responded. She set the price and was firm.

[mamabird]

Yeah, your agent want to make his/her commission. Don't lower the price if you're not in a rush.

I am sure W appreciates the small gestures... if you get a good response I'd say keep doing it... I was doing a lot more nice things for my H until we went to counseling and I realized that it wasn't actually working.

[FloydMan]

No kidding, a few hundred bucks less commissions for them to move product but tens of thousands for me. no way. too early.
ya, I am a big suck and always extend the olive branch only to get stomped on. lay off the pursuing but be nice I suppose.
I miss them and it has only been a day. Kids sent me nice lovey good night texts.

[Breakdown]

RE agent wants to lower the price of the house already. It has only been 4 weeks including the Holidays. I say too early. W has not responded. She set the price and was firm.

Not too many people are going to be looking for a house Thanksgiving to Christmas....I'd agree, definitely too early.

With that said, did your agent pull 5-6 similar properties from the region when you set the price? If/when you drop price, make sure they do that again and you see how competitive you are before making any changes.

[FloydMan]

Thanks Breakdown,

yes they did but ours is the biggets in the area and lots of features. They were sure (of course they wanted the listing) that they could get traction at that price. Also, W wanted thta price. To quote W: "I will not take a dime less than $******!". We both know it is $75k-$100k too high. Yet she wants to move quickly? Also, d10 keeps telling her mother to take the sign down tells me the other day that "Mommy said if the house does not sell by end of February, then she will take the sign down". Why would she tell d10 that? To pacify her for the moment? Does W not think d10 will call her on that at end of Feb? W is only asking for trouble with her making that kind promise/statement.

[SM34]

Just wanted to say I have been following your posts FloydMan and I feel for you. I am in a similar sitch but my daughter is too young to understand what is going on. I'm trying to fight to keep my family together so that I never have to tell my daughter her mom wanted to leave us. It [censored] that your daughters are witnessing this. Be strong man! Be the man that you know you can be, the loving father, the rock! Every family needs a rock, and right now that is you my man. Sending positive thoughts and support your way!

[JuneReN]

Floyd, W gets to set an unreasonable price because it buys time. Let her drive that train and see where the station is.
I think you do what works. Leaving a coffee and note is not a violation of DB lol, do what works. Just make sure you are not the "huh, Spike, huh?" Dog, okay?

[FloydMan]

Thanks SM34....positive thoughts to you too. Yes, similar in a lot of ways. My W denies having anyone now, but I doubt that. It would make her look bad through the process and to family and friends. She does not stay out all night, but she didn't when she had the A going on eitehr, that made time in afternoons and early evenings. Let's not be doormats. Detach and don't do her any favours. It took me a long time to do that but I do feel I have more of a backbone now and confidence is returning day by day. Your W is pretty brash and open about OM. My W cannot be honest with anyone, including herself.

[SM34]

Yes you are right FloydMan. Please stop by my thread and let me know of any ideas/solutions/thoughts you have. I am trying to get more traffic and more opinions but my thread gets lost all the time and many others seem to get more feedback than I do. I started a new thread today because my old one reached the limit, but majority of those posts where me journal ling lol.

I am rooting for you man. You have daughters like I do and I think it is especially important for us to try, to give it everything you've got. Your daughters need the best possible chance of learning how a "normal" family operates, and also skipping the lesson of 'when the going gets tough, you get out'. My wife went through her mother leaving her father when she was 13 years old, and she swore up and down that would NEVER be her. But, here she is, doing the exact same thing. Unfortunately what she learned from her parents situation is that if you are unhappy, you leave, not work on making your marriage happy!

You can hang in there a little while longer. Your wife doesn't want to sell the house! If she did then she would low ball the price. Play along with it, lets see where she goes with this!

[FloydMan]

Hi RubyTuesday,
Thanks for always being there for me. Why would she be buying time? Is it to sort more things out like financials etc? She tells friends that "she just wants to get this process over with" but this won't do that. Her lawyer has not contacted mine in over a month now. We were supposed to have financial statements completed and done by now too. We have both been working on them but neither of us has completed them. Her friend told me she is PO's that I am seeking "full custody". Well, funny enough that is not true. Also in Canada here (as you know fellow Canuck) it does not work that way and is not a term here in Ontario. We had agreed to 50/50 on everything until she got a litigation lawyer (not collaborative family lawyer) and I only countered with what was her demand of 75/25% access and primary residence, 50/50 Joint Custody (which is decision making etc). Seems she does not know what she is doing legally or financially (even though she is a bank manager and has put us in a financial mess). She does not understand that this is a 1-2 year process through the courts.