Finally approaching the starting line!

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Suckerpunch,

I would say that the biggest breakdown was that we lost sight of our R. We stopped spending time together. I also didn't realize how important it was for her to have her own time. I always wanted family time. Combine that with taking her for granted and not supporting her the way a man should support his wife, and you have a recipe for disaster.

Not really sure how it progressed and I wasn't aware that anything was wrong until BD.

Thank you for the kind words, although I don't think I played anything that well. I think Sandi is right on, and I am finally at a point that I am comfortable applying what she says. In the beginning when our self-esteem is shot, her advice is that last thing you want to hear. If you can find it in your heart to apply it, I think you will find your self-esteem return a lot faster than most. Not sure if that makes sense or not. Basically you will be facing your fears when you are feeling your weakest, rather than waiting until you feel strong.