Bklyn Gratitude

[NLW]

w,h

How very true - the booby prize, indeed!

You make me laugh - thanks for that.

[wishing, hoping]

Well they say laughter is the best medicine. Sometimes the anti-depressants arent enough.

Hey maybe one of us could hit it big with a comedy routine. Truth is stranger than fiction ya know. ; )

[job]

Ladies,
Please keep in mind that you had the best years of your h's lives. The ow is getting the leftovers and it's not the same as what you had w/your h. They are not sharing the love and compassion that you and your spouses had. It is nothing more than roommate and f@ck buddy material going on there.

Ladies...you are the prize...never forget that!

[BklynMom]

Thank you.

I am the prize.

For a year and a half I have taken the blame for all my h misery. No more. He has chosen to take the easy party road but the truth is the path he has chosen will eventually bring him tremendous grief.

I am the prize. They are both jerks

[wishing, hoping]

You can say that again, BK.

The OWs in our sitchs are nothing more than a prop. They think they are more than what they are. They are fools. As are the men in these sitchs as well.

[BklynMom]

Hi guys just wanted to check in. The girls and I are having a great new year. Each day they say and do the most amazing things. I am so blessed to have them in my life.

That said I need to vent, spew and mind read for a little bit. My d4 brought up riding in ow car this morning. I didn't react. But what gets me is that ow is a goody two shoes. She thinks she is a respectable person. My h too. They both think and really believe because they weren't bopping a year and half ago then they were friends that is okay for them to pretend to be a family.

Stbx also needed to change the parenting time this weekend because he is working. He said he could pay for a babysitter if I already had plans. This harks back to 3 months ago when I worked on a Saturday. He got mad at me because "I assumed he was availablity to babysit". That I treat him like a babysitter.

You know what this guy is a jerk. Of course I will change my plans to spend the day with my kids vs stick them with a sitter. A few months ago when I didn't suggest a babysitter it was only because the man I married would have thought that was nuts

New topic

My h has cleared out his belongs from the house in may. Over the summer he asked me if he could have the music hard drive. I said no even though he knows I have no idea how to set it up or what to do with it. I think I thought maybe he would move back home for the hard drive.

I really just wanted to hold on to a piece of him because I was so hurt and scarred.

This week I am giving him back the hard drive.

(why am I crying right now?)

[BklynMom]

Ps why does he still call me by my nickname. He is the only one that calls me by this name

[job]

B,
I think you are crying because you are finally accepting the fact that he's out there and may be gone for a while or even forever. The hard drive was the last material piece of him that you had and now that you are going to give the music hard drive to him, it's become a reality for you that he's gone.

As for the nick name, it's a habit and they don't even realize most of the time that they are saying it. I would take this action w/a grain of salt.

Keep focusing on you and your girls.

[wishing, hoping]

(((BK)))

This svcks but keep your chin up. Take care of yourself and those precious girls. : )

[BklynMom]

Thks snod and w/h.

So stbx and I shared some Emails today regarding logistics. I wrote at some point that I would have the girls ready at 7p for him to pick up. He writes back he won't be getting off till 7 so he will have the babysitter come and pick them up and bring them to his house.

I wrote sounds good.

But seriously does this make any sense? It seems crazy that he cant pick them up from my place at 8 instead. The babysitter is going to bring them to his apartment so he can just come home and they will be there waiting in their jammies. I guess it just makes his life really simple.