thanks so much for your time and effort. What you have stated does make sense to me, even though my heart wishes otherwise. I have been thinking about an exit strategy for the "friendship". I guess that will be easier than I thought. I can just step back and not be the one trying to reach out, and if she reaches out I can be less receptive. It will be tough, but it makes sense. Of course, I continue to stay "friendly" when we speak or see each other, correct?
As of right now, there is no other OM. She did express recently that she will at some point start dating. That should be obvious, I guess. You were exactly right on the assumption that our M has been like roommates. Our intimacy has been very seldom, and we had been sleeping in separate rooms for quite some time. That all started about the time our daughter was born and progressivvely got worse over the years.
In regards to detaching, I will need to focus on that much harder. My biggest issue with completely setting her free is complicated. First, she currently has a part time job. Financially she couldn't even think of supporting herself. There is no way she could put a roof over her head and my daughter will be with her 1/2 the time. That puts me in a difficult position. To add to that, she has little to no support here locally. My wife's friends have not been supportive of her choice to leave the R. Basically, all of her freinds have chosen to be advocates for us reconciling and she has pushed them away for not supporting her decision.At this point, she has zero support in our area. Therefore, her only support is in Canada, where my wife is originally from. I am fearful that if I put her on the street, even with a fair bit of notice, she would have no other option than to return to Canada. That scares me to death. I know she has already had offers from her Canadian friends for a place to stay. So, how do I detach in that scenario without jeopardizing losing my daughter as well?
