i know i have alot of baggage that comes with me. i have mine neatly put away, not thrown all over the lobby so to speak..lol
Lol!
As for dating - a few thoughts for you:
- dating is just that - DATING. It's a process for evaluating people, to try to find one that fits you. It's not a marriage or a commitment. Shop around.
- be careful who you sleep with. People get attached. If you don't want to get attached (or have them get attached to you) then maybe you shouldn't be sleeping with them. (All the more dangerous for a guy in your age bracket, since there's a risk of the woman you're sleeping with getting pregnant, either accidentally or on purpose.)
- don't involve your kids or hers. I understand that if a woman has kids, you'd like to see if you could tolerate them. But really, you shouldn't involve the kids at all until you are sure this is a relationship that is going somewhere. They don't need to get attached to someone and then experience another loss when you break up.
- read Chapman's book on the Five Love Languages. Easy read, useful information to keep in mind when you're evaluating a possible partner.
