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[mamabird]

Yes, keep going with your friends. It's important. But try not to focus on what they do or don't think about H. I know it's validating for you to have other people think he's a jerk, but this is your time now.

One of my friends said to me, "You and your H are associates now." We aren't friends, partners, lovers or anything else. We are associates. So treat him as an associate, that is all. What he does should have no bearing on YOUR life (unless it involves kids of course). He is just your associate. Your friends are YOUR friends and when you're with them, focus on them and you!

I'm not saying not to vent - of course you need to do that. One thing I keep telling myself (and it's hard because it's something we've been conditioned not to say) is "It's all about me." This means, the things you do, say and believe should be geared towards putting you and your kids in a better position. Make your own happiness Ruby!