Hi NLW, I agree that the letter reveals a lot of guilt and shame...also a lot of confusion and uncertainty i would guess. Confusion about his R with his kids and how to lead that. He is uncertain how to approach it.

He still blames you of rate past and current 'problems', and is trying to make himself look like the nice guy, a guy just trying to keep the peace.

It seems he still has a lot of reality to wake up to.

I would encourage your kids to spend time with H, and support them as much as possible without getting too involved in the R between them and their dad (unless you have to of course). Everything is still so new and raw. But your H definitely does NOT have a clue how to navigate. You do.

Thinking of you NLW (((((( ))))))

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home