eyesopen, I just read through your journey. I wish I had the insight and control you are exhibiting. I honestly feel that if I played it as well as you have, my W and I would be back together already. With her own admittance, she expressed that she wasn't "fully done" until I started into my emotional swings of desperation. I am not sure if I should laugh or cry about that...haha
It sounds like we have some major similarities in regards to our sitch. I am wondering, what do you feel was the fundamental breakdown in your relationship? How did it progress and at what point did you really become aware of the reality of it?