Nothing much to say but I find I am beginning to have a little less patience with H these days and have to remind myself not to say things to the kids, because I feel I am being a bit subversive.
For example, S made a comment about how H would flip because he could never get to a certain place on time for family activity and here we were, on time. I said when people want to be on time they are. If you are late once or twice, okay, but constantly late is disrespectful.. That comment was disrespectful to H by me, I think and I have to watch my mouth. H is constantly late for everything all the time. I realize that now I am not lol!
Also H saw kids for three hours over Christmas, reneges on days he says he is seeing them, cuts the days down to half days etc. now none of this seems to bother kids, because I don't tell them exact plans anymore.and I don't say " well dad was supposed to be here an hour ago, or he was supposed to take you here"
Also, he is not getting things done, because I have given him responsibility for certain things in kids lives. He works. That is it. You'd think he would have time to do a few things, but no. He constantly is dropping the ball. Granted, I have taken care of these things all our marriage, but that was one of his major complaints, that I didn't let him get involved in kids lives and I made all the decisions etc.
Now that I am handing over responsibility,meh doesn't seem to be taking it seriously. I email all relevant info., and then assume he will take care of it after I confirm he received email.
This is a 180 for me, because before I would do it or nag him until it was done.
There is a situation concerning S right now and a payment H should have made and will impact an instructing course if not paid by tomorrow at a certain time. I don't even think H will get here on time, but I have let S And H handle this and not even mentioned it at all.
