Love the thread name, love the calmness coming through. I have seen pieces of it but today I truly feel it.
I too, equated S or D with failure and when it happened I realized that I was not solely responsible and it wasn't a failure, but more of a chance to learn. I was also very prideful, but let go of that too!
I agree with that first step, because it is the hardest and the second one, rediscovering yourself. And it is true, once those are in hand, the need for the M diminishes. Not maybe the love or desire for spouse, but the fact that you are okay with who you are, here, now, in these kinds of situations, means you can be okay with yourself in any situation.
((()))). You are very peaceful today, I love it!!!
