Thanks Tori. Despite not feeling "great" about the convo, I think I did pretty well. I did restate NC with OM. Told her she could have even bragged about herself to me by refusing his request. Also, I highlighted the fact that if he "loves" her then there cannot be a friendship. I thinking its more a matter of time. She did add her realization that she chose him b/c of how he makes her feel better about herself simply b/c she is better than him. The typical WAS scenario that we already knew.
60% is much better than when I initially came here, so if it's a growth then I can work with that. We did agree to check in more regularly to see how we are. Actually that's how she started the convo. I told her I am ok. I don't need her, but want her; and am hopeful this crisis can be a blessing in disguise. So we'll see. I did ask if she was simply waiting for the holidays to be over and then file, she believingly said no.
Intimate space? Not sure if I follow your ? I emphasized that I was hopeful for basic physical affection (eg hand holding, hug), not sex. But since we both have needs we can solve that problem together. . A line from Jody.
I need to believe more in myself. Show my awesomeness to everyone and do more of the DB same stuff. Work the process and find out where my journey toes me (equally important remeblmber she is on her own journey).
