GG, 14 years is a long time, and I don't blame you for wanting to stand. Just realize that that may be a long long time, with no outcome.
I have a feeling he won't wait too long to file the papers. I am seeing a new attorney in a couple of weeks. I expect some motion after that on his end. I know he didn't want to "mess up" the holidays with a divorce, plus it wouldn't have been final until after the new year anyway, so what's the rush?
My SIL did tell me that my MIL advised him strongly and repeatedly to take his time with all of this. My MIL and FIL were separated for about 9 months when my H was young (his father was 40, go figure, wonders never cease) and managed to hold things together. I asked my MIL about it and her swiss cheese memory didn't even recall why they separated. H actually told me that his mom said, "you never know, you may work things out". I thought it was weird that he even mentioned that she said that. I would have left it out, personally, especially in his position.
My over-analyzing brain takes over once again...ugh, the perils never seem to end.
You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. -Christopher Robin to Pooh
Romans 12:12 Rejoice in your hope, be patient in suffering, persevere in prayer.
