H's MLC started when BF murdered

[GatorGirl]

I totally get what you mean about signs. I feel like someone/something/karma is looking out for me, or likely looking out more for him than me. I still can't believe that I pulled up right behind him and OW in a drive through and that's how he was caught. Of all the places to go, and all the times, why did I feel the need to go there? I don't think that happened for me, that happened for him. The reality thrown into his fantasy scared the crap out of him. Had that not happened, he likely would have gone down a path with her of no return, of complete misery. I do feel a peace. I feel that I and my children will be okay. I feel that we will be happy, but that is irregardless of H.

Being spiritual, I think God protects us and that is surely what it seems like happened to you that day. I honestly think you have a better shot at working it out than I do. My H has not asked to spend a single minute with me since he moved out. I'm not sure I know what that means but it feels like it can't be good. Hopefully he's spending the time alone actually working it out in his head but that might be too much to hope for. I am so curious about what's going on with him but resist the temptation to ask. In some ways I probably am better off not knowing. He has admitted to me that this has been painful for him, that he was 'losing himself' and felt like he was falling apart before he moved out. He said he doesn't feel like he is falling apart anymore. I can now see that those words are practically right off the MLC script and that it's part of the process. Maybe if I stand long enough and he doesn't file for divorce, I have a snowball's chance of this actually working out? I know God has a plan for me and I trust Him and that He will take care of me. He has ALWAYS taken care of me and I have faith that this will end up how it is supposed to, whatever that means. It's strange because I know that divorce is not of God and I believe that we have free will aside from what God wants for us. It will be interesting to see what wins out. And yes, we will all be ok. We will make it through and be strong and carry on with life as we know it from here on out.

Another weird thing I keep thinking of-H's father has not been well over the last few years. Diabetic, alcoholic, had a small stroke a few years ago that left him more or less numb on one side. What does another major loss do to those in MLC? The big difference with his dad would just be that it would be somewhat expected, unlike the murder of his BFF but loss upon loss is like pouring salt into an open wound. Are there any typical behaviors with another major event while in MLC? I know it's putting the cart before the horse but it worries me that he will really flip out if he loses his dad.