Our court date is only a couple of weeks out and W and I still haven't discussed, nor have I been served any paperwork so I decided to get off my butt and call the court today.
Turns out they didn't serve me because W's attorney told the court I would submit the paperwork. That's a load of crap because W has paperwork in hand. Anyway, the lady I talked to basically told me she didn't know what they'd do with it at court because W's attorney said I'd file, and I haven't hired an attorney or submitted anything. She suggested I call W's attorney to find out more information, but to expect they'd set the "real date" at our meeting in a few weeks.
This isn't exactly what I was hoping for because either 1) I'm going to have to sit down with W and discuss or 2) I'm going to have to hire an attorney (or both). I guess in the back of my mind I was hoping this date would just come and go.
I'm going to think on this a bit. I'd almost like to get W to agree to postpone for 3-6 months until we get the house sold, but on the other hand, that just puts me in limbo for another 3-6 months. Maybe it's time she make a decision one way or the other.
And of course, this is so dramatically different that what you'd expect given our day to day. As I told my Dad the other day, it really is like we're newlyweds. For example, I couldn't sleep last night and we ended up ML in the middle of the night. An hour later I was still up, so I got out of bed...W says "What's wrong?" I tell her I still can't sleep and she says "Do you want to crawl back in and cuddle for a bit." Of course I say, sure, I'll give it a shot She was so loving in those next 20 mins I actually did fall asleep. Then I wake up this morning and we ML again. I mean really....if this is what D is all about, then I understand why the divorce rate is so high!
She was so loving in those next 20 mins I actually did fall asleep. Then I wake up this morning and we ML again. I mean really....if this is what D is all about, then I understand why the divorce rate is so high!