How often do you think you should be having sex? Have you ever asked your W?
"We still live together and spend a lot of time together and I have been able to be fun and positive, so well that she now thinks I don't really care that she is leaving."
Did she tell you this? If she ever brings this up again, tell her point blank that you are not interested in sharing her with other men. That you are her H and that what she did was wrong, but you understand what lead her to this point and am doing things to correct that.
"but But I know she knows I love her dearly, it's just part if the script as you said."
No it's not all script. The WAY you communicate that love now and in the past matters. Maybe your W needed physical love to feel validated. Then when the OM came along, he fulfilled her need of being someone special, etc.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
