Is this cake eating? 9

[Sweetbriar]

NWL...My H could have written this letter! In fact, my H did write a letter to my kids when he left and said some of the same things...that he will always love them, that its not OW that caused this, that we (he and I ) are better off apart, that he understands if they dont want to see him all the time, that he hopes they will make time for him, etc etc etc...also H added in that they will be happier since he and I were fighting all the time. Well....we NEVER were fighting until OW showed up in the picture and he was meeting with her and texting with her all the time. That was when we would argue and he would act in anger towards me in front of the kids.

Im sorry that he had decided to not pay for the school stuff. I know how hard it is financially to do this..Im going through it too. My H refused to pay stuff as well and then he ended up doing it..so maybe yours will change his mind when he realizes he is hurting his own kids. Mine has a lot of guilt when it comes to the kids so right now, that is all he is doing is bribing them with money all the time. It makes me sick.

And really, what happens between you and your H DOES involved your kids...the decisions you make together involve them and directly affect them. Im not saying they need to be in the middle of the convos you both have...but it does involve them.

Instead of "understanding if they dont want to do this...." maybe he should be trying more to understand what they do want to do....this goes for my H as well. UGGGG...what happened to these once good men?? It just sickens me ....especially that these poor kids have to go through this crap...

Thinking of you...

SB