Maybe you should take her at her word and accept that her being in the bed with you now is a big deal and enjoy that for what it is. I would be ecstatic with some bed-time cuddling. We always want more than we have!

I can understand you feeling insecure when you saw your W with her phone and asking her about it. Next time you feel triggered in a similar way, maybe you can re-read Sandi2's rules before you do anything. That really helps me. Nothing needs to be done on the spot.

Me: 51
H: 52
T: 23 yrs
M: 19 yrs
S18, D16, S14 (special needs)
PA: 2003/2004
Piecing: 2004 on
Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012