It's None of my Business

[BeingMe]

Just keeping note ...

Last night, I had the passage light on to see into the linen cupboard. My H was awakened, and he opened the door and asked, "is there a reason the light is on?" Now, to me he looked put out and irritated, so I just replied, "yes, I'm looking for something." Then I switched the light off. This morning I told him that I didn't appreciate his sarcastic comment last night, and that this is not a hotel where he can question the staff. That he was rude. He disagreed that he was rude. He says, "I was just asking a question." Then he's quiet for awhile and says, "maybe I should just find my own place." I said he is welcome to do so, that I was sticking up for myself and didn't need his rudeness anymore. He disagreed again that he was rude. Okay, I know I could've just said nothing this morning, but ...

There's a history here of him going to bed early, and everything has to be quiet and dark. If he hears something, he would come storming in and telling me to keep it quiet, or question me about when I'm going to bed, etc. I would normally say sorry, and put the tv down more, or just go to bed. I always tried to accommodate his wishes. But no more, he could've just waited a few minutes, and the light would've gone off. There was no need for him to get up and question me about my activities. If he wants to leave, he knows where the front door is. The line is drawn ... don't talk to me in a disrespective way ... I don't deserve that, and won't tolerate it from him anymore.

Otherwise, Christmas day was good. We (H, S25, D20 and I) went to see The Hobbit, which was great. Plans for New Year has fallen through, so not sure what we're going to do. Perhaps, he'll go off and do something with his single male friend. Who knows. I was surprised he wanted to come with us, in the first place.

Onwards to Jan. 7 2013 ... first day of uni, and divorce lawyer appointment.