I would wait a month or so and see how she is after the holidays and her Mom's passing has had some space before worrying too much about what to do. What's a month at our age, right?
This is a long process. All told, using hindsight and reconstruction, my W's started summer of 2008, though full on BD and all was August/September 2011. Like you I was ready to throw-in the towel last Jan/Feb/Mar...somehow I found more patience within me than I ever new existed and made an effort to LOOK for small things, small signs of change, improvement...self-awareness within her. I LISTENED carefully for signs that she was coming to her own terms with her issues. I keep a journal (a lot of it is this forum) with what I notice so that when I get frustrated or whatever I can look back and see the 2 steps forward that preceded the 1 step back. This helps keep me going and focused on the long term goal/big picture.
How do you log 3000 miles on your bike in a year? One morning, one mile, at a time...
Can you notch up the GAL to help you? Maybe go a bit dimmer and mysterious-er? What has been working when she seems to warm a wee bit? Or not?
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
