I refuse to be the one to file but it would take a serious miracle for him to come around. At least your H said, "I love you" on Christmas. Mine is too far gone for that. I guess my issue is more giving up on the hope that something significant enough for him to realize what he is throwing away would happen so that he would come home. I just can't see it happening. I appreciate all the reasons you listed to stand. I do not have any plans on taking any action, so does that mean I'm standing? If he called me right this moment and said he'd made a big mistake, I would at least be willing to make an attempt to work it out, for the sake of all of us. As I said, I just really can't see him coming around and that's why I feel like giving up. I need to work on me and my life and figure out exactly what it is that I want and need from a partner and clearly at this moment, he is not the one that can provide it for me. I am curious about the Hero's Wife's website and will look into it though...

You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.
-Christopher Robin to Pooh

Romans 12:12 Rejoice in your hope, be patient in suffering, persevere in prayer.