My wife wants to separate

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Yes you are right, it depends on the situation. However, when the wife is financially reliant on the husband, and all of a sudden she is claiming to not be in love with her husband, I think it is safe to say there is someone else MOST of the time. I have read many psychology books lately, and I know ebough to kow that a woman who is not financially self sufficient will not risk ruining her marriage without having a backup plan. After all, they are not dumb!

Now a woman who has a strong career, and good self esteem could very easily give that speech and be willing to suffer the consequences without having someone to escape with.

I think I know the post you are talking about and I will find it now and put in a correction of my position. I believe that person was also saying that like my W, his wife was NOT financially secure. In those cases I would be willing to bet my money that there is another guy filling her head with false confidence!

But I will find that post now, and add a disclaimer that this is my opinion after all my research, and that person is free to believe whatever he wants.

Mr Bond, I aplogize if I may be mis guiding people. But I always state somewhere that I am not a pro. I have only been in this situation a matter of weeks, and would never claim to know everything. I probably did not clarify that this is my opinion though and for that I apologize.

MrBond, since I see you have a lot of experience, would you mind offer me your opinions, advice etc on what I should do? Please read my sitch on page 1.

Thanks!