To be expected that she would try to split opinions, accuse, etc. That's par for the course for many.
Your kids will make up their own mind. Try not to get involved in that process.
And in a way, her not contacting you is a gift. She is out to hurt as many as she can right now. She would do that to you if she could or if you get close.
Be still and be quiet. Others will figure it out faster if you don't get involved. The quieter you are, the more resilient to the accusations. And the sooner she can figure it out for herself...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."