Hi SB - you're looking for rationality where it doesn't exist. It seems to me like your H went a little crazy, he's had a significant personality change, and may be acting out of a depressed state. He's added more chaos to his life, he looks like a d-bag for leaving a pregnant wife, and he's treating his teenage daughter like a drinking buddy to confide in. He is not rational. Protect yourself, protect your daughters.
You can't control him, his moods, how he feels, or whether he gets help. You just can't. Take care of you and be someone he'd want to come back to. He may never, and if he did you may not want him, but it never hurts to be someone good.
It is nice of you to be concerned about his emotional state. You have a lot of compassion. You can care, and you can even let him know you care, I think, but you can't do anything about or for him right now.
You're all smiles and acting as if, because you read the book and have this site. He doesn't. What you're doing is for you and it will help you, and it might help your cause with him. It's worth doing, but it's not worth comparing to what he's doing or not doing.
I sent you an email. You around today?
((hugs)) adinva
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
