If anyone has followed my saga, I was in a similar boat. "Let me sell you somesing my fren !"
A lot of WAW's believe sincerely that they have been communicating their issues for years. And a lot of LBH's have been almost completely oblivious. I say "almost" because, they may have sensed something, but it was not powerful enough to elicit action.
What communicating you ask? Mostly simple remarks, dropping subtle hints, sometimes overt complaints and venting, shopping, whatever; it all goes completely over the LBH's head and frustrates the potential WAW. You have to acknowledge that and her feelings behind that. If you just want to defend yourself, and continue to believe you are perfect, you won't get anywhere.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
