FY, Even though she's still at home, she's still mired in MLC. It takes a long time for them to "feel" anything for us. Her feelings for you, her past life, etc. have been stuffed way down in her soul. Depression tends to do this and until her crisis/depression is over, she will continue to say she's not attracted to you.
Continue on w/your life as you have been doing. Live your life to the fullest. If and when she's healed and ready to catch up, she will. Give her plenty of space and time. Dig deep for more patience and it will help if you stop looking at the situation in months and years. I know, it's difficult, but an MLC crisis takes years to get through.
My question to you is: if your wife had cancer or some other terminal disease, wouldn't you be patient and work w/her in recovering? If so, then you need to decide if you will do the same w/MLC because it is a "depression" and one that only she can work through...it's your call as to whether you toss in the towel or try to be there and yet continue moving on w/your life.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
