Some progress after 2+ months of DBing

[subguy]

To be honest my wife did the majority of the Christmas stuff at our house as well. I chip in and help on a lot of things but she really got a kick out of doing Christmas so I backed off. I also worked and she has never had a job working 40+ hours. (she worked outside of our home for about 12 of our 22 years). She had the time to do stuff and get home before I could get home from work. I even gave her 8 hours of whine free shopping the day after Thanksgiving. If she needed/wanted help she never made it clear to me, maybe I could have recognized.

Every thing had to be JUST right, if I did something, not to her liking, she would come behind me and change it and then complain about having to change it, so... why put the effort in?? It was how I liked it so why not leave it. Kinda like when I build something like a deck, I want it my way, so she would back off and let me have it my way.

Now I was just as guilty about acknowledging her efforts. Kinda like her not acknowledging me working 40+ to provide and allow her to work where and how much she wanted. Plenty of guilt to go around for all of us.

Now the drinking is a problem especially if he is driving the children around drunk. Be careful and do not allow that bad behavior to continue. I am only a social drinker, a six pack can sit in my fridge for 6 months, that was never a problem here.

Just the opposite side of the perspective from a guy.