So, I know this forum in general is about keeping all of us from getting divorced, but is it horrible for me to say that I have to move on? I know H is deep in a MLC. There is nothing I can do for him or say to him to pull him out of it. I refuse to stand around and wait for him. If he comes back, I'll cross that bridge when I get to it and reassess the damage at that time, but I feel like I need to move on. Our 12th anniversary is on Tuesday. The roller coaster of emotion is much easier now that I have accepted my fate. I will not be the one to file but I do not plan on dragging my feet and making this divorce last forever either.

Any words of wisdom for me from some seasoned DBers? I do not expect him to come back. I actually expect him to serve me with papers after the first of the year. I see a new attorney in two weeks and would not be surprised if I get served shortly thereafter.

You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.
-Christopher Robin to Pooh

Romans 12:12 Rejoice in your hope, be patient in suffering, persevere in prayer.