I think it is hard for young kids to understand what is happening. My S5 thought that mom was leaving and he would never see her again. They have a hard time expressing their thoughts. You may want to be the one to ask them the questions, rather than wait for them to ask.
And you are right it is all about love. You love your wife enough to try and understand her point of view, and to let her go. Loving detachment
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