Well, I've read a a few pages of the pursuit and distance post. I can see some similarities to my relationship very early on, before we got married and when it was still long distance. This was when I was at a point when I needed to make some decisions and needed a time out from her while I was mulling all that over. I asked her for some time and she was accepting of that. The problem was that I didn't take the time out as I should have. I still contacted her more than a few times as I was going over how my life would change. Anyway, I could see how there may have been some pursuit and distance there.
I can also see it happening at the very end. When she finally came out and told me how she was feeling and what she was seeking she began distancing and I began the pursuing...but we never switched places since, she's never pursued since, just distanced. But, that's also because I kept pursuing. I no longer am pursuing, but it's only been about 2 mnths...
Just started reading it, very, VERY good thus far. At first I thought I wouldn't like it. The whole "going dark" thing sounds like mind games but as I am reading further I see it's not about that. It's more about letting them go on this journey they so desperately feel that they need and for me to start mine as well. I'll keep reading...
