Some progress after 2+ months of DBing

[Wendylon]

Thanks, Regretful. It's nice to know that I'm not the only mother/wife here who does the lion's share of Christmas (and everything else). I found it particularly galling when the kids would thank both of us for presents that he'd not even known about and yet he smiled back, lapping up their thanks. I also find it difficult hearing him say that Xmas was a great success this year without any acknowledgement of the fact that I pulled it off pretty much single-handedly (he made a bad dessert and bought us each a book).

He didn't drink yesterday but was already back at it today. He leapt at the opportunity of dropping S17 off at the sales and then obviously went to a wine bar or somewhere as he smelled of alcohol when he got back. He wasn't drunk but why can't he be straightforward and open. All this secretive behaviour is crazy-making for me.

It's on the tip of my tongue to say something about it. I want to ask him what happened to his resolution of a few weeks ago to drink only with food and company. As far as I can tell, he's back to drinking on his own without food. I still don't think there is an OW in the picture at the moment though.

He's mostly lukewarm with me, though can quite easily become a bit critical over not much. He fixed a light today and I gave him a hug to thank him.

I'm feeling unappreciated and unrecognised today. I know that talking to him when I feel like this NEVER leads to anything good. I'll just have to keep biting my tongue for now.