Divorced Thrd #6/Long Road Ahead

[GH31]

Hello Mrs D,

For some reason I was drawn to your first threads and have just had a read of them.

I know I screwed up on so many levels, and I want to work on making things better.

I screwed up terribly too. And the worst thing was not knowing that I was screwing up until it was much too late.

Have you managed to get to the bottom of what's followed you around all these years, and led you to the choices that you've made?

I still do not know the core issue that brought the affair in the first place.

You wrote this some time ago. Do you know now what drove you to it?

I think your ex husband wants to trust you, wants to know his heart and dignity is safe with you. Yet it's been broken so many times so I can completely see why he's of the mind that you cannot be trusted.

There's only one solution I know of and that's to be trustworthy, to develop a long track record of reliability and dependability with him. Not in what you say (in fact the less you say the better), rather by conditioning him with your actions to trust you again.

It will take a long time.

Your trust account is deeply in the red and you have a long road ahead of you just to get to 0.00. After that everything will be in the black.

But...

Your trust account hasn't yet been closed.

And...

The next five years are going to pass whether you want them to or not. You might as well arrive at the end of 2017 grateful for the gift of Life and for having transformed yourself into a person of utmost trustworthiness, dependability and reilability.

Believe me, your ex husband will notice.

It can be done.

Hang in there.

GH31