He might back away again to not give me "hope" and might stop sharing his feelings.
The current R is good. Don't want to spoil it.
Have you decided if you want to remain married to him? That’s what you should base your course of action on.
He’s already on a fast track to D you. I don’t see how worrying about spoiling the present R matters here, unless you want a friendly D, and to remain friends through it all and immediately afterwards.
If you want to save the marriage you buy time. Ask him about his confusion/reservations and ask for a delay in the process so you both can decide what you really want. You do have a say in this.
His perception of you and the M will not change next week, but it may months down the road.
Never mind him, what do you want?remember when he said you were too nice?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
